Daily Messages for Self Love from The Mystic Next Door™

Have you ever found that other people believe in you more than you believe in yourself?

Maybe you got a great job that you didn’t think you had a shot at. 
Or found yourself doing work that matters and that you really love, but maybe never considered how talented you are at it.

Somewhere inside is that little voice saying, “Oh my gosh, if they only knew! Sooner or later they’re going to see me for what I am. They’ll find me out!”

I’ve worked with thousands of people through their processes …

This is an important one, and it's very important to not skip this step because it's a sneaky one that we often don't consider, or our conscious brain tends to reject it.

It's the idea that ‘Hey, what if I actually want to get much, much worse?’

What if you want your relationship with yourself, the way you talk to yourself, your self-confidence, or whatever else it might be that you're working through at this part in the process, that you actually wanted that to get much, much worse. 

There…

We experience a lot of emotions throughout any given day.

Throughout our lifetimes, we have these emotional experiences, many of them are highly charged- particularly if you've had some kind of trauma in your life. It then sets up this pattern wherein the emotions don't typically get addressed. I don't necessarily want to say processed, but addressed in a clear and straightforward way. 

Over time, these emotions tend to get tucked away and they get tucked away in our body, they get tucked aw…

Consider this question very carefully...

‘What if you accepted yourself exactly as you are now?’

I'd like you to sit with that question for just a few moments and notice what it is that comes up for you when you consider that. 

What if I accepted myself exactly as I am?

Maybe there is a fear that nothing will change, maybe there is a fear that you'll miss your chance. Maybe there's the worry that you'll be stuck with the same ways of doing and having or a worry that you'll fall prey to t…

Today I'm going to share with you one of my favorite hacks for living a healthier, more enjoyable life. It's called "upgrading your vices."

This isn't mine. It came from a health coach that I had years ago by the name of Maria Whalen and she talked about this in the context of food at the time. 

One of the things that we do if we want to indulge in something, is we tend to make it wrong. It's like a ‘guilty pleasure’. So we eat the cake and then we shame ourselves for eating the cake. And c…

Today I wanted to share public service announcement. A very simple one at that. And it’s this…

“Yes,” and “No,” are complete sentences.

I know that might seem kind of silly at first. But consider how often a clear yes, or no, is followed by a litany of reasons and justifications.

This habit of justifying our decisions is another facet of the need to be right where we get into over explaining. It’s a protective mechanism designed to do two things…

1. Preempt external resistance and criticis…

Often times, we wind up allowing things in our lives that are not what we really want. We tolerate it because "it's not that bad, it’s alright, no big deal, it's not really that important." And we tend to diminish ourselves and talk ourselves down from what we really want and talk ourselves into what we're willing to settle for. 

Your tolerance is going to determine exactly what experiences and what things you have in your life. You'll have what you tolerate so it becomes really important to …

When we are trying to be gentler with ourselves, one of the things that we do to take off the pressure is to give ourselves as much time as we need to complete a project, to get something done and turn it in, whatever that might be in your world.

I submit that this is actually really counterproductive and it creates more stress and anxiety and adds more pressure than we think. So one of the most powerful things that you can do for self-care is to set a deadline for yourself. Here's why...

I…

Time is a made-up concept.

It's a man-made idea and in our brains, we often have a very different idea of time than our actual experience. So when you're in the concept of time, when you're thinking about time, you're usually NOT just thinking ‘I have plenty of time. There's always more time, I can make as much time as I need.’

Our conversation regarding time is usually about lack and it's about working against the clock and fighting for the deadline.

Yet when you're actually grounded, full…

Did you know that rushing is actually a form of self-abuse and it's incredibly pervasive and incredibly acceptable in our world?

That is something I'd like for us to consider and to even think about changing for ourselves.

Why is rushing a form of self-abuse? Well, think about all the pressure that we put on ourselves to get things done, to check the box, to do things right, and what we do inside of ourselves in order to do that.

We actually rob ourselves of the opportunity to really be fu…