Daily Messages for Self Love from The Mystic Next Door™

All of us have things in our lives that we tend to save for a ‘special occasion’.

What happens sometimes is we get into this mundane way of living and nothing in particular seems that special, or it takes something really, really big to make it a special thing. So we wind up with these beautiful things, clothes, jewelry or other special things in our lives, the special China that just sits on the shelf or in the closet collecting dust. But something really beautiful and magical happens when …

Today, we're talking about little lies. 

It is something that we do without even realizing it. We tell ourselves these little lies and it sounds something like “I always make that mistake” or “nothing ever goes my way”. “I'm always last”, “I don't have any energy”, or “I'm broke right now”.

I know that it can feel like that sometimes, but it's important to remember that absolutes like always and never are nearly always- and I'm using that word purposefully- ‘Always’ is just a lazy way of exp…

If you're reading this, you're the sort of person who signs up for a self-love course, and you're probably aware enough of your thoughts and emotions to know which ones lead to the places you want to go. And for the ones that drag you down. We often label these as “good or bad, or positive or negative”.

You might also be the kind of person that likes to go fast and get the results that you want more quickly and this actually creates a perfect storm for bypassing what's really going on inside …

Imagine that you were sitting in a movie theatre watching one of your favorite films and you are so entranced with what's happening on the screen, that you don't even notice what's going on around you.

Now, while you're watching, it triggers a memory and maybe you start thinking about work or the endless to-do list, or maybe you're just really focused on one of the details of the films or one of the nuances of it. You then disappear inside your own thoughts and forget entirely about the movi…

Ultimately everything that we're experiencing is a result of our decisions. These are decisions that we've made consciously and other decisions that we've made unconsciously. So changing our relationships with ourselves is ultimately about making different decisions.

Our thoughts, are decisions consciously or unconsciously. Our emotions are also decisions. Our energy is actually a result of our decisions. Our relationships are definitely a result of our decisions. Our income, and even our sens…

I was putting on one of my most comfortable pairs of sweatpants as I sat down to record today. I noticed that it had drawstrings and I thought, “Wow, how amazing are drawstrings?” 

Drawstrings are comfortable but what they do is they respect the fact that you change. 

You can change from day to day. Your body can change from day to day and they let you feel comfortable and snug within those changes. How cool is that?

All too often in our lives and in ourselves, we are shrinking and pushing …

When we were young, we needed permission. Depending on how you were raised, you needed more or less of this. But now, we look for permission from the authorities in our lives to say, “it's okay”.

Can I have another cookie? Can I watch a little bit more TV? Can I stay up a little bit later? And that's a habit that we often drag with us into our adult lives, where now you're the authority. 

Yet we still look for permission from outside sources, from parents, from authority figures, from family…

One of my favorite movies is Shawshank Redemption. I loved the scene where they were working on a rooftop and Andy Dufrense got all of his inmate coworkers cold beers in exchange for tax advice. I especially loved when he played the Duet from Marriage of Figaro and the whole prison went silent- awestruck by the beautiful music echoing throughout.

But the moment that really hit me in the gut was when Andy and Red were sitting by the wall after a stint in solitary confinement, and Andy said, “I…

I can't think of a better way to start (or reignite) your Self Love journey than with this quote by Emerson. He says, "Each man is a divinity in disguise, a God playing the fool."

This speaks to the idea that we have forgotten or lost touch with the divine perfection that we were designed to be. So maybe that happened because we decided somewhere along the way, or we've been taught that we are inherently flawed, that we are inherently limited, that we are imperfect and need fixing or need chang…